tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393232.post93218663254140385..comments2023-11-02T07:43:27.252-07:00Comments on Biting Tongue: ChoicesBiting Tonguehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15770918200146334167noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393232.post-80939327539826595562015-04-26T17:34:45.018-07:002015-04-26T17:34:45.018-07:00@Cathryn -- thanks so much for sharing. We shall ...@Cathryn -- thanks so much for sharing. We shall have to get that wine date on the calendar!Biting Tonguehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15770918200146334167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393232.post-43857575909358249302015-04-25T22:08:48.794-07:002015-04-25T22:08:48.794-07:00Such a deep post. I wish we were face to face drin...Such a deep post. I wish we were face to face drinking wine so we could discuss this more but there's a few things I wanted to say.<br /><br />- Instagram filters life. I totally do it, I'm totally guilty. It's not to be believed. I post pretty pictures but my day to day life is lots of laundry, a constantly messy house despite my best efforts and juggling more things than I realistically have time to do. <br /><br />- I do believe motherhood is the most important thing a woman can do...if she has children. It is not the most important job per se. I have a child and raising him is by far the biggest responsibility I will ever have. But I do not think that it is the most important thing for ALL women or womankind in general. <br /><br />- You sometimes feel pangs about missing out on having a child but I sometimes feel pangs about what I miss out on by HAVING one. This is not a PC thing to say and you know how much I love the Dude. But having a child changes your life, reduces your freedom and alters your marriage irrevocably. I look at the freedom of women like you and sometimes I have pangs too. <br /><br />As you said...'In short, my life is just a life, full of beauty and bullshit and choices like any other.' Yep. <br />xCathrynhttp://myheartscontentblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393232.post-39642689294716614062015-04-07T21:41:34.954-07:002015-04-07T21:41:34.954-07:00@Arvay -- very eloquently said. In some ways, it ...@Arvay -- very eloquently said. In some ways, it does simplify things.bthttp://bitingtongue.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5393232.post-14650295617829184622015-04-07T11:15:53.156-07:002015-04-07T11:15:53.156-07:00A thoughtful post. Thank you for writing it. I, as...A thoughtful post. Thank you for writing it. I, as you know, don't regret having children in the least, and don't even feel wistful about it. I do wish I'd see more of those kids in my Facebook feed more often, but them's the breaks. Sometimes a kid's face will pop up, and I don't recognize who it is until I read the text. That makes me sad.<br /><br />If I had children, there is no question that they would be the top priority and most important thing in my life. I would make major sacrifices in my life, to enrich theirs. That is, in my opinion, as it should be. Ironically, although a life with children is much more difficult in the day-to-day, it does make answering the Big Questions easier, does it not? To the question, "What do you want to do with your life?", the answer, "Be the best parent I can" is a perfectly reasonable, utterly worthy answer. To people who don't have children, we have to find other answers.Arvayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02300309277462514252noreply@blogger.com