When Help Isn't
True help is in the form of something offered by a donor and accepted by the receiver.
Ideally, the receiver may have even requested the help in a clear way, with an understanding that there was no obligation for it to be provided.
Unrequested aid is often the opposite of help. It often causes damage, both to the receiver and the person who spent time and effort trying to solve a problem without full understanding.
I just found myself the recipient of some unrequested "help" (that I was not given the opportunity to accept or reject) and now have quite a mess to clean up.
Definitely not helpful in the least bit.