The Painful Truth
Sometimes, you have to listen to people you care say things about you that hurt.
Your job is to listen to these things and to grow, and become a better person. Not to focus on how hurtful it is. Not to challenge them and ask why they felt the need to hurt you. Because, really, they are giving you an opportunity that others wouldn't give you. Others would take the easy way out and let you continue in your destructive patterns without challenging you. So, if you are honest with yourself, you have to be thankful.
But damn... wouldn't it be great if there was a way to have the growth without the painful reality?